We label men like these as being weak, needy, unmanly, and undateable or even toxic at worst. It is my belief that every relationship, no matter how healthy, exhibits something that someone could call codependent. Addicts and enablers both have to recover. Every time you catch yourself, you become stronger. If there was anyone who could make my grandpa happy, it was me.
How do you know if you have a loving relationship or one that is codependent?
Codependency is a silent epidemic among gay men
It's feeling worthless unlovable when you see every gay man with a boyfriend but you. Yes indeed, we too use "cookies. You are the love and joy beneath the pain. However, marriage does not relieve her insecurity and need for reassurance that she is loved. This mode of relationship can also apply to many gay men, who NEED a relationship or become a serial relationship seeker in order to feel worthy.
One thing they all had in common, though, was that they held within them the pain and brokenness that I so desperately wanted to heal within my own grandfather. Many women find themselves repeatedly drawn into unhappy and destructive relationships with men. It breaks my heart to think that he never got the chance to resolve his feelings and get the healing that he so desperately needed. Gay relationships where either or both partners are pre-occupied with the needs of the other to the detriment of their own individual emotions or functioning can be described as codependent. The danger is that potentially healthy gay relationships become toxic and, in the worse case, abusive and characterised by domestic violence. Application has been deleted. The term "codendency" is not in the DSM and is borrowed from the language of drug and alcohol addiction.